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Personal Messaging and WWU Etiquette

Started by luise.volta, April 23, 2011, 08:18:20 am

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pam1

I think I've found my calling, I've got plans for tomorrow if we don't have more sign ups by 10 am. 
People throw rocks at things that shine - Taylor Swift

luise.volta

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Kennedy

How wonderful so many wanting to help you Luise. Like I said eailier it is easy even for a newer member to see how special you are!

Nana

I agree with having Pam1, Laurie (if she agrees) and Holly to help Luise. Thank you Ladies for caring about this our second home.  There are many other great wise ladies who could possibly help out but cant speak for them.  Examples:  Pen, Hope, Faith, Faithlooksup, Scoop, Glitt, Kennedy and of course Katherine. 

Will be reading this project's development lol.

Love you all (I mean it)

Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove:
Shakespeare

lancaster lady

Well they aren't called hero members for nothing ! Good luck ladies .......let me know if you ever.need back up .....only happy to.help save our forum ... :)

luise.volta

Bless your hearts. Keep the ideas, offers to help and nominations coming!  :D

I have sent my ideas for our reorganization on to Kirk, who is my advisor as well as my "techie." He will see what I missed and suggest what I haven't thought of.

I only have one goal in mind and that is to lessen the complaints and negativity so we can go forward into year three in a simpler, smoother, kinder and more productive way. The larger we get, the greater our resources...but with it comes added complexity unless we decide otherwise. Sending love...





Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

Oh lol.  I go away for 3 days and look at all I missed!  Thank you ladies for thinking (nominating) me.  I am very flattered that you guys think that much of me.  I know I can get long-winded and it must take great patience for you to read some of my stuff. 

Of course I will help Luise if you find something for me to do.  I do take the weekends off for a couple of reasons.  One, my DH and I spend Saturdays together and also I think everyone needs to step away sometimes.  It gives me fresh perspective to take those couple of days.  My DH actually works on Sundays, so I could be on those days.  I just usually am catching up on my facebook and household chores during that day...Lol.  Laurie has actually caught me online reading a couple of times on Sundays!  So, Saturdays are pretty much the only time I don't actually get on.

I love this place and everyone here!  Whatever you decide Luise, I am just grateful to have this place.  I will do whatever you choose Yoda.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

luise.volta

That warmed my heart, Pooh! Thank you. We are in the early stages...doing Think Tank. Toss in any ideas that come up, please.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

Really, I think you have made plenty of good suggestions, and so has everyone else.  I think that no matter what you try, there will be a learning curve and some growing pains.  There is just no way to not have them as people will be trying to figure out based on their own opinions.  I think two people bouncing off each other could work very well, and also may not due to different perspectives. 

I know I have a high tolerance for people and I have found myself feeling bad for new people when they come in and people start kind of ganging up on them.  I remember when I first came here, I had to post a few things before I caught on to the groove.  People were very kind to me when I first started.  It seems they waited for me to post a few things and let me get my feet wet. I think new people get jumped on fairly quickly now instead of giving them an opportunity to try to fit in and catch on to the do's and dont's.  I am not saying that they don't have to be corrected if they come in guns blaring, but I have seen some lately get jumped for just having different opinions.  We are telling them to be open to different views, but yet bashing them for theirs.  I would hate to see a new person get reprimanded so quickly before giving them time to adjust a little.  Also, I like to think that when someone new comes in (there are a few exceptions) that they are hurting, angry or upset about something.  I tend to be at my worst when I am that way and I would like to think that initial posts are coming mostly from an emotional standpoint.  I know mine were.  It takes a little while to get a handle on your emotions and see some different opinions.

I will miss the PMs, but I understand why you are leaning towards getting rid of the function.  I have used them for various reasons.  I like to be able to vent to the trusted members when something makes me angry instead of putting it on the board.  I like to be able to share pictures with a few other trusted members.  I have even passed a few "risky" jokes to a member that I know happens to share my humor.  I also have used it to say to another member, "Umm...am I reading that right or am I misunderstanding it?"  I use it sometimes as my own personal self-check, not to have someone take sides.  Probably not your intentions for having them, but it's the truth.  I think I have only ever sent 1 to you personally.  I am sure that if you are having that many issues through PMs, I would be wanting to get rid of them too and bless your heart, for dealing with all you are getting.  It's a shame people can't self monitor themselves.

So I think all the different suggestions have been very good.  I would like to say to anyone here that possibly ends up getting a role that it will be very important to be compassionate and to not let your personal feelings bias your judgement.  And being sarcastic trying to prove a point, will push people further into a corner.  I try to save my sarcasm for those that have got to know me and know when I am playing.  Most new people are not in a position to be able to receive that in the beginning.  I wasn't.

I do think you need some help Luise, in whatever form you choose.  You are now running yourself ragged with trying to help everyone else.  So I applaud you for recognizing that you can seek some help, and get it.  You know I luff you!
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

LaurieS

Quote from: Holly on April 24, 2011, 05:34:41 pm
Well, I do nominate Laurie to handle newbies. She was the first to welcome me here via PM, and her welcome was the first beginnings of the attachment that I do feel to this forum. (Not even Laurie knows that). 


I just saw this Holly.. well that makes me feel like a better person today.. thanks :) 

Pooh

I saw that and thought that was such a sweet thing to say about you.  It truly was.

Give me just a minute...and I'll think of something sweet to say about you....just a sec....

thinking...thinking.....
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

LaurieS


luise.volta

Thanks for all of that. I am distilling it and passing it on to Kirk...who is my Forum Mentor. Sending love...
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

lancaster lady

I agree with everything Pooh says ........ :)    Even  though I will always feel like a newbie ......Pooh always made me feel welcome . I think her take on the forum is 100% correct ...and hope that Pooh and all the hero members can get the WWU  forum back to its happy place ......here's to the A team ...... :)