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Started by misunderstood, March 29, 2011, 02:58:36 PM

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Kennedy

Hello Ladies, I haven't read all the replies yet. I just wanted to say that I never meant to imply that a man couldn't or shouldn't go alone to visit his family as often as he wishes.
I personally see nothing wrong with a Man doing that at all.
Our Sons come see us alone all the time. Our DIL's come see us alone all the time . They come see us as a Couples all the time also.
My intention was to share my personal experiences and points of view based toward the questions asked by the OP. In hope's some of it would be helpful to her?
If our grown children didn't want to visit us? Or if their spouse didn't want to be around us?
I would be sad,hurt,angry,mad then all of that at once I'm sure!
This is an area which I've been blessed I know. I do hope you are able to get where you want to be OP and everyone else too.
On a slightly more personal note; OP, I would just like to give you a shout out for being a WONDERFUL MOTHER!! It is great that you aren't letting " ANYONE" side step your little girl. You're the best!

This is a lovely group! I'm happy I've found it!



LaurieS

I agree Kennedy.. there are times when adult children do and should visit without their spouses... UNLESS.. the FOO's are trying to divide them as a couple, then I feel that the united front would speak louder then words.

lancaster lady

Hi misunderstood :
We kinda hijacked your post a bit , but reading all the posts I'm sure you will pick up some good ideas .
I think your DH has to stand up for his family , it's all or none .!
Be ready with the excuses when THE summons come for get togethers .
Keep in touch ...

LaurieS

We never intentionally hijack threads.. it's like we have A.D.D. at times and just wander off :) Eventually we'll come back around.

AnonymousDIL

Quote from: lancaster lady on April 02, 2011, 09:00:17 AM
Hi misunderstood :
We kinda hijacked your post a bit , but reading all the posts I'm sure you will pick up some good ideas .
I think your DH has to stand up for his family , it's all or none .!
Be ready with the excuses when THE summons come for get togethers .
Keep in touch ...

"THE Summons" made me laugh.... The ringtone for my MIL is this classical music then a guy says "Her Majesty requests and requires that you now answer your telephone. She looks forward to speaking with you. It is a ROYAL SUMMONS!" LOL

Pen

Oh, I hope my invites are never seen as a royal summons...I'm too shy to contact DS & DIL unless it's absolutely necessary. I wish I could just be myself and not worry about how I'm perceived.
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

lancaster lady

April 02, 2011, 12:05:29 PM #111 Last Edit: April 02, 2011, 05:05:19 PM by luise.volta
Well Pen , I think you should be yourself ...and go for it !!
when you get to a certain age , I'm afraid  you tend to do as you like and to heck with the consequences .
Then they put it down to your age .....and eccentricity, and that suits me just fine ....lol