So this is more a SIL problem, but didn't know where else to put it.
I have had a VERY interesting weekend…. Firstly, my Mom’s mother had a stroke and went into the hospital. It wasn’t too serious and she is going home today. Yay!
I found out that DH had a FB/text fight with SIL last week which ended with him sending a not-so-nice text calling her a not-so-nice name and him getting a call from MIL 10 seconds (not kidding lol) later. Well, FIL came up for dinner on Saturday (MIL/FIL are separated in the midst of a divorce because she is having an affair). And the fight came up. I commented that I was disappointed that he would say that to her and looked at DH and said “Don’t antagonize your sister.”
Well, FIL was stopping by MIL’s that night and told SIL (she’s 19 stll at home) that I “stood up for/defended” her. Well, I didn’t exactly defend the girl. I agree 100% that she is what DH called her, just that he should NOT have said it to her because he is bigger than that.
So, Sunday morning, I wake up to a loooooooooooong email in my inbox from SIL. She wanted to thank me for defending her (which in my opinion I didn’t do! Lol). That’s fine, whatever. BUT this wasn’t the “topic” of the email. The email was a long diatribe about all the crap that DH has done to her over the years and why she hates him and basically why I shouldn’t trust him and should hate him too. (Really, Ladies? I am supposed to not trust and hate my own husband who has been nothing but honest and kind to me?!)
Well, some of the stuff she accused him of in this email were really off the wall (like hacking her myspace on their shared computer and ruining a friendship). I of course, asked DH about it. He goes “I have no idea what she is talking about. We didn’t even have a shared computer.” DH and sib’s were home-schooled through a cyber school and each had their own computer which is what I have ALWAYS been told. Partly why I found this accusation so off the wall.
She also said that her and a former BF talked about marriage with DH and he told her she was too young to get married and was stupid for thinking about it. Well, she said she dated this guy for 3 years. Um, NO! She STARTED dating him AFTER DH and I got together (we will be together 3 years in Sept.) and dated for MAYBE 6 months LONG-DISTANCE. She would never discuss that type of thing with DH because they do not have that kind of relationship. Plus she was 17 when she dated this guy and DH’s “supposed advice” would have been dead on IMHO.
But I digress, I wrote a response to her calling her out on all these blatant lies. Well, I was running late for church. She can thank the Lord that she will never get that email lol. I deleted it when I got home because I knew it wouldn’t solve anything. I figured just “ignoring” it would solve the problem better (she has always hated my guts btw).
Well, last night, I get a forward joke email (this girl has NEVER emailed me the entire time I have no her except to curse me out). So what, is she now my new BFF? What should I do? How long do I let this go on before I tell her “Ya know, I didn’t defend you. I just don’t think he should have said that to your face.”?