Things I naturally Do

[lancaster lady]

Also Holli , I think it.depends on the mood you are  in at the time how things affect you .
Although some people I know  are itching for an argument 24/7 ....sad.way to live .

[holliberri]

Ha! LL...go visit the "Cut Off" post for a prime example of just how my moods can affect me.

I know what you mean.

If someone is itching for an argument, I think the "they aren't trying to slight me" approach would be pretty effective at avoiding an argument. It takes two to argue, so if I look at the things people do and say, and I can perceive it in a positive light instead of a negative one, I probably won't be arguing with them. The net effect is that I don't give them what they want. Great in theoryk, hard in practice. 

[Pooh]

Actually, Holli was right.  With the exception of the unsolicited advice, the rest is things I just do, and will continue to do.  It's not about being right or wrong, it's just who I am.   I was simply thinking that if I could remember that I do things without bad intentions, that it would make me remember that someone else was probably doing that too.  Now if someone said, please don't bring all my children a gift, I wouldn't, but just that I don't do it for any other reason than I like too.

[lancaster lady]

Pooh:

when some people are naturally warm and kind , there are others who go out of their way to
disprove this fact . As they themselves are not this way , they find it hard to believe and find fault
in every kind act .

[Pooh]

Thanks LL. Isn't it just sad though that people can't just be nice without repercussions?  Ahhh....my perfect world...

[lancaster lady]

Mine Too !
Kind gestures towards others makes a difference in everyone's day , a smile costs nothing .