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Offline pam1

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Re: Who does that????
« Reply #180 on: February 17, 2011, 05:18:13 PM »
Yeah, my family says nothing to their kids...even when they probably should.  It's sink or swim time once you hit 18.  And don't get me wrong, I love my family and I love that's how they are, we are all self sufficient adults and when we get together it's because we want too, not b/c someone is forcing us.  Tons of fun.

Anyway,  that's when I knew it was bad when they started saying they found some houses for sale in another city and open jobs in both of our career fields. 
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« Reply #181 on: February 17, 2011, 05:56:48 PM »
Pam.. I wouldn't be against creating some space if it would help you get back to enjoying life.

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« Reply #182 on: February 17, 2011, 06:34:06 PM »
Laurie,

I do wonder....but I'm not asking.  ;)

Pam, seriously, coffee. If I as into Skype we could just have home brew over that. But, I'm not into Skype.

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« Reply #183 on: February 17, 2011, 07:22:16 PM »
I wish I could remember where and when...but I recall hearing Dolly say: "Let me tell you, it costs a lot of money to look this cheap!"  ;D ;D ;D
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« Reply #184 on: February 17, 2011, 07:27:25 PM »
Yeah Luise I could just hear her saying that.. they say she is quite a character.. do you remember when Barbara Walters asked if her breast were real and she offered to let Barbara touch and tell... She's been quite an icon in the country western world... just like Pooh's Loretta

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« Reply #185 on: February 17, 2011, 07:35:08 PM »
I also remember her referring to the price of her "!ndustrial strength bras!"
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« Reply #186 on: February 17, 2011, 07:50:14 PM »
Yep she's a funny one

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« Reply #187 on: February 18, 2011, 06:00:59 AM »
Oh, Laurie! I must say it is a good thing I am not your daughter or you would have my apt. complex on speed dial! LOL I am horrible with the phone. Most of the time I leave my phone in my purse or it is on vibrate or Both! lol And I don't get peoples messages until hours later, if not the next morning. lol I know I should be better with it, but it just doesn't happen lol

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« Reply #188 on: February 18, 2011, 06:30:00 AM »
My dd usually calls at certain times of the day... unless her bf is up there with her she always calls before bed.. she's been doing that since her first day at college..  and she has her phone like embedded in her hand, it's truly her lifeline, she also receives calls almost daily about  work schedules etc.  It was the fact that she said oh I'm going to be sick..  and we had just finished with some rounds of pretty invasive test that it alarmed me and then nothing, that startled me.  But she was fine, and all was well.. and a lesson learned.


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« Reply #189 on: February 18, 2011, 07:04:02 AM »
Holli, good I'm glad you're not into Skype, I'm not sure I could handle that again lol!  I do go by your home state every once in a while so maybe some day :)

Laurie, I guess I'm kind of torn, I really like where we live.  But I also like other places too.  And then I wonder the problems would still be there, they would just change.  House guests all the time, expected to give up all our vacation etc.  And plus both DH and I are at points in our careers were it doesn't make much sense to go anywhere, all my clients are here.  DH has a firm position.  I dunno, it's just another thing.
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« Reply #190 on: February 18, 2011, 07:12:00 AM »
If you think they'd just follow you, then I see no other choice but to remain removed and distant.

Because of yours and all the other wacky mil's I called mine yesterday and said.. hey let's do lunch next week.... if nothing else my mil will benefit from this site :)

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« Reply #191 on: February 18, 2011, 08:51:39 AM »
Good for you!  ;D
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« Reply #192 on: February 18, 2011, 03:10:29 PM »
I think you'd have to weigh it out.. if sitting in pj's till 3 in the afternoon instead of attending a family event was the decision.. I think it would be easy.

PJ's all the way!!
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« Reply #193 on: February 18, 2011, 03:23:26 PM »
One time MIL asked me if I wanted her to go with me to a routine vet appointment.  I asked why?  And she said to support me.  Ok.....

I have a friend like this.  She can't stand to be alone - ever - so she assumes the same is true of me, and takes it as rejection if I don't ask her to be my shadow.  For my part, it's really important to me to be independent and not make people responsible for helping me deal with my every emotion, so it doesn't even occur to me to call her at midnight if I'm anxious and sleepless.  I write in my paper journal, or meditate or whatever helps right then.  But if I mention I had trouble sleeping "oh, why didn't you call me?!"  I guess, too, that she (correctly) interprets things like that to mean that I wouldn't be happy if she called ME at midnight if she were anxious, and that this is really the part that upsets her.  I think it makes her feel like she can't fully depend on me.  And I can't imagine depending on another adult that you're not actually married to in that way. 
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« Reply #194 on: February 18, 2011, 07:31:01 PM »
Dependency is a red flag to me.
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