I just don't "get it". I'm sorry, I just don't. I know everyone has these boundaries and I guess that's good but what ever happened to common courtesies? All these rules for one little Mom and Dad.
I hope I don't sound harsh when I say this, I don't mean it but must you out and out say, like rules to a child, what they can and can't do before they even do them? These people must be not normal, otherwise you wouldn't have to have all these rules.
I saw where you said they cussed. That's not acceptable to me and I'm sure to many others who have a thimble full of class, especially around kids.
Okay, they need to call first, that's great. I remember when my inlaws would call and ask if they could come over and it really hurt my feelings. My thoughts were, "my gosh, what is this an Emily Post convention where manners of the Queen are observed?"
I think if rules had been laid out to me when DIL and son married, I would have been devasted. It was made clear, though through her actions so I guess the rules would have been kinder. It was perfectly clear when she would fold her arms and snarl when son wanted to come by. It wasn't worth it. What a witch.
A list of rules for the Mom and Dad of his parents. It's always so strange to me that her parents just know their boundaries automatically.
I just feel very sensitive to this because I've been there. Just don't pay any attention to me. How much more can we take?