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Is This The Kind Of Thing MILS Do?

Started by catchingup, November 29, 2010, 01:38:07 pm

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luise.volta

I was fine until you said that. Now, my mouth is watering!
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

holliberri

I'd mail it, but  it might get cold on the way down!

Who needs lattes in TX? It's not cold there.  ;)

LaurieS

I don't know about that you know we just had snow.. all 1/4 " but it was snow.. some areas got a little more and Dallas.. well between you and me Houstonians don't consider Dallas as being 'real' Texans :)

My favorite drink is Carmel Macchiato

looks yummy doesn't it... lol.. I'm picky.. I get mine, upside down, extra hot, no foam

luise.volta

OK, I'm gonna get one the next time I'm in there...if I can pronounce it.  8)
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

LaurieS

Quote from: luise.volta on February 16, 2011, 08:36:26 pm
OK, I'm gonna get one the next time I'm in there...if I can pronounce it.  8)

You might want to pronounce it  Skinny Vanilla Latte... less then half the calories.. no since in hitting Curves then over indulging right? 

luise.volta

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

LaurieS


Nana

Oh Holli.  I agree with you.  Every situation is different.  I would have never dared crossing the boundaries your mil did.  In fact I never did cross none.  And I had a total rejection from dil at first.  I really was so careful not to push, intrude, ask questions, give advice, visit without being invited.  I would only open my mouth to offer dil and ds my help .  We (well, my husband) paid for half of the delivery fees, we would buy cloth, milk, pampers, toys for the baby (then it was the first gc), and you name it.   I was so nice to her, buying her nice things.   I know Holli...I was trying to buy her affection.  Things started to change when I decided that enough was enough....and pulled myself out of their life.  I wanted my son and her to have a good marriage, and it was the most important thing to me.  I understood perfectly well that my son had a new family.    Thank God, she realized (and she accepted it) that I had done nothing to be treated as trash.    Now, they have three children and I am now a real grandmother to their children.   But Holli...it was so painful, that even if I sound dramatic...I wanted to die at that time.   That is why I feel real compassion for all mils that are going through this pain.

But as a poster said.....pain is pain...regardless if it is mil or dil that is hurting.  But I thought that maybe it was worse for us mils lol.

Yours is a different story.  Of course you dont have to prove your mil anything.  You dont have to meet her expectations.  You are not married to her.  You dont steal a son....our sons have their own wings to fly.    Our sons have to make their own lives. 

You sound good-heartd and I am sure that if she were different, you would have had a good relationship with her. 

Take care and may God Bless You.

Love
Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove:
Shakespeare

LaurieS

It seems that the ones (mil vs dil) who hurt the most as the ones who feel powerless to make decisions about their own lives. To me that pain is equal for all.

pam1

Holli, that would be a lot of fun!  it's too bad most of us don't live closer.

Back off Laurie!  You can't have Holli all to yourself
People throw rocks at things that shine - Taylor Swift

LaurieS

I'd share.. I just want holli to figure out what I can do differently with my own dil.. and then I was kinda hoping she'd take the rats home with her

holliberri

I'm being used. I must be more similar to your DIL than I care to admit.

Pam, I really can't believe how much we have in common...but you manage better with humor, guts and a little dash of "I really don't care" thrown in. I love it.

pam1

Holli, you made me blush.  Thank you.  Although I have to admit I wonder if my sitch would be different if I had used some of the Holli way in approach of my in laws.
People throw rocks at things that shine - Taylor Swift

luise.volta

Laurie, I went to Starbucks and did the deed. Oh, my! What a treat while I was pushing my basket around selecting stuff. I got the "skinny"...they said it was 140 calories and I worked it into my Nutrisystem daily intake maximum. I'm going to mention you in my will. (I haven't decided what I will say yet but you will be to blame for my eventual downfall, that's for sure!)

Beyond that....THANKS!!  ;D ;D ;D
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

LaurieS

I love that drink.. I get the regular  carmel macchiato .. I tried their skinny once but it wasn't nearly as good... one day go for the real thing you'll really be cursing me.. it's that good. 

Next time try the skinny vanilla latte.. it's really not at all bad and 90 calories I believe

You missed it but another absolutely fantastic drink there is the pumpkin spice latte.. I do not get the whipped cream and then I trick myself into thinking that I'm making wise choices.. they typically only have that in the autumn and early winter.

Glad you enjoyed it... that is why when I do a me day.. it's the mani/pedi and a starbucks