September 23, 2019, 03:00:02 am

News:

"Welcome to WiseWomenUnite.com -- When adult children marry and leave home, life can sometimes get more complex instead of simpler.  Being a mother-in-law or daughter-in-law can be tough.  How do we extend love and support to our mothers-in-law, adult children, daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, and grandchildren without interfering?  What do we do when there are communication problems?  How can we ask for help when we need it without being a burden?  And how do our family members feel about these issues?  We invite you to join our free forum, read some posts... and when you're ready...share your challenges and wisdom."


Was done....NOW totally done

Started by Pooh, November 22, 2010, 07:41:12 am

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Pooh

Great story MrsKitty and great insight for me.  Thank you very much!
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Hope

Pooh,
I just read this entire thread and my heart is with you.  It's tough, but I think you are doing the right thing to back off and give your ds/dil space.  When they are ready and willing you will receive the contact you long for (could take a while).  Relationships can be complex.  Love you!
Hugs, Hope

Pooh

Thanks guys for all the kind words.  Surprising as it may seem....hold on....get your shocked faces on.....wait for it.....they never showed at Christmas or have yet to call.  Lol. 

And guess what?  It's Ok.  We talk about having OUR expectations of our relationships, and I truly had no expectations of them showing up or calling. 

So I will wait and see what happens.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Pen

Good for you, Pooh. I'm glad you're doing OK. Letting go of expectations is the key, but so hard to do. It's like a jarring disconnect in the reptilian part of our brain 'cos we've been conditioned for cause and effect all our lives, in other words if we behave a certain way (inviting DS/DIL for the holidays) we'll get an appropriate response (an RSVP.) I know I need a bit more practice with this, but I'm trying :P
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

luise.volta

We're all trying, Pooh; failing, falling...getting up and dusting ourselves off..and trying again. And we are winning! Sending love...
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

LaurieS

Quote from: luise.volta on January 04, 2011, 09:31:51 am
We're all trying, Pooh; failing, falling...getting up and dusting ourselves off..and trying again.

I think you just described my diet not my relationships

luise.volta

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

I thought she had ESP and was describing my New Year's Eve.  I will tell on myself.  My best friend gave me a nice gift bag full of Bath & Body works, because she knows I love their stuff, for Christmas.  She bought me several items from the 'relaxation' line.  Ooooh it smells so good.  It was Black Current Vanilla.  One of the things in there was a jar called, "Black Current Vanilla Sugar Scrub".  The directions were to use it in the shower for a silky, smooth exfoliating scrub.

I got in the shower, and dipped into it.  Ohhhh, it's pure luxury I tell ya'.  Very smooth and luscious and smells wonderful.  The down side?  It turns your shower into an ice skating rink!  So as you bend out of the tub, reaching for your bath towel on the counter, your feet slide out from under you sending you sprawling into the bathroom counter.  The wooden trim on the counter ever so gently, slices down your forearm leaving two lovely lacerations.  As you lay naked, sprawled on your bathroom floor with your head wedged under the lip of your baseboard, your only salvation is that you are home alone, and there was no one to witness your gracefulness.  But....you smell heavenly.

Or so I have heard......
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

LaurieS

I know what you mean Pooh... I took my new bicycle out for a ride after I got over my chest cold.. I wouldn't tell anyone that I was heading out to avoid any embarrassment.  Whew the  ride went well.. I didn't crash, didn't whip out in anyone's front yard and made it back home.  But as I was getting off the bike all resemblance to gracefulness ceased... I caught my toe on the low set cross bar and fell to the side.. I was at a stop so I thought ok I'll just lay over here and maybe no one will notice.. but nooooo I did this on the only friggin hill in my yard and had to roll a few times before stopping like a beached whale.  Yes, thank goodness no one was there to witness this or I would have had to try to convince them that this is part of my exercise regiment.

luise.volta

Get all of this stuff done and over before you are in your 80s and break something that has to be screwed back together...(sayeth the soothsayer.) A year ago I ran with my dog (probably not the loveliest of sights) and ended up doing care giving from a wheel chair after having my ankle screwed back in place. Anesthetics, of course, do not come in exotic scents.

Roll and tumble while you can. (Prone is safer and more fun, if I remember correctly.)

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

Hee hee.  I guess we all have the middle name "Grace".

Luise, I have already figured out one thing.  When I was younger and fell, I bounced.  Now I just kind of "thud".
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

luise.volta

I'm not even going to tell you about "splat."  :o
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

luise.volta

BTW, I love the Pooh Bear picture!
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell