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[Rose799]

It occurred to me that dd may some day be a future mil spoken of here.   I read with interest the post about fight or flight syndrome.  Over the years, I've repeated the stages of grief.  The final stage supposedly is acceptance.  I can't be sure, but I think just maybe I've reached it.  I want to thank you for this site, Luise.  I've been a lurker, and have learned a lot from you all.  I'm sorry I didn't post sooner, I was too hurt and ashamed.

Rose

[luise.volta]

Welcime...now let the love flow in...feel it. Take a deep breath. You're home!

[Louey0727]

Dear Rose 799:

Welcome to this forum.  Trust me when I say, you will get support and feedback that will make you stronger and be able to deal with your problem.  Keep on posting and vent your feelings, no one here is going to judge you, we are all members to this forum because we too have problems and are trying to deal with them. 
Remember, you are not alone and try to read posts that the other ladies have written that deal with our children.  When I say children - - they are adult/children.
Remember this, like Luise said.......You're home............you have arrived at a safe haven.
Helen

[Pen]

Welcome, Rose799. You have nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to the behavior of others. They make their own choices. Take care.

[jill]

Welcome Rose799,
I am a newbie too, have been coming here for over two months, and I think I am starting to feel a little better, thanks to the wise words and support from all the wonderful women here.  I still have bad days and tears, but when my dd cut me out of her life, I was not sure I would ever be able to handle the situation.  I am currently reading the book "When Parents Hurt" by Joshua Coleman, which one of the ladies suggested, and is also a great help.       So hopefully with counselling and all the support here, I hope someday to see a light at the end of the tunnel.

Best Wishes....Jill   

[Nana]

Welcome Rose
Yes sometimes we feel ashamed.  But as Pen said "nothing to be ashamed of" .  Good you decided to join in.  I love this site and come in everyday.  Sometimes 2 or three times a day...with my coffee, soda or whatever.  Just love it.....feel at home

Love

[jomama]

I'm still a noob, too. I can't begin to explain the relief I felt when I found these ladies.  But I am still shocked at how many parents are thrown into this purgatory, by their own children. I read several blogs by daughters who have cut their mothers off. The majority  of these girls are the main problem, riding the sympathy train. You would not believe the "reasons" one gave for her hate. (I won't post it here, but I will PM  )  I just don't get their fascination with drama and chaos.

jill- I just started that book too!

[barelythere]

I'm still a noob, too. I can't begin to explain the relief I felt when I found these ladies.  But I am still shocked at how many parents are thrown into this purgatory, by their own children. I read several blogs by daughters who have cut their mothers off. The majority  of these girls are the main problem, riding the sympathy train. You would not believe the "reasons" one gave for her hate. (I won't post it here, but I will PM  )  I just don't get their fascination with drama and chaos.

jill- I just started that book too!

I don't know if all of you were raised this way but we took care of our families.  If they were sick, a loss, a death, we looked after them gladly.  I've noticed that some today don't feel the need to look after their own.  It makes me sad to read about people putting their own parents in 'time out' when they are suffering the loss of their mates.  It's disgusting. 

"I'm sick of his pathetic whining.  I don't need that in my life and will not tolerate it.  I'm putting him in time out till he can learn his boundaries".

Are you kidding me?  You are talking about your father who raised you, who is grieving the death of your mother and you're putting him in time out for what you call whining?  It makes me just want to give up on this society. 

[Pooh]

Welcome to our WWU world Rose.  I am sorry you are dealing with this pain.  And I was also glad to see that you are seeing a doc and getting help.  That's the key, take care of yourself and remember that YOU MATTER!

Big hugs!

[luise.volta]

Right back atcha, Rose!