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Fight or Flight?

Started by Pooh, November 01, 2010, 01:48:46 pm

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After seeing a post by Kathleen referencing this, I thought I would share what this actual physically does to your body. 

Coined in the 1930's by Dr. Hans Seyle, it describes the biological process that is caused when we react to some stressor or event that confronts us.  Commonly known as the "fight or flight" response

Consists of three stages:
         Alarm Stage
         Resistance Stage
         Exhaustion Stage

The Alarm Stage goes to work immediately after a stressor is detected as it prepares the body to cope, adapt and adjust.  The following biological reactions take place.
Your Respiration Increases
Your Heart rate increases
Your Blood pressure increases
Your Muscles tense
Blood shifts away from the skin
Your Digestion is slowed
Sugar is released from the liver
Adrenaline is secreted
Your blood gets thicker

Alert Stage - prepares your body to fight the stressor off

Heart rate and respiration increase to provide blood and oxygen to muscles to help them fight
Blood thickens and gains more clotting ability so if you were injured, you are less likely to bleed to death.

Resistance Stage - After a situation is dealt with, your body attempts to return to normal.  If however, there is no adaptation (no immediate end to the situation), your body will begin to go into a stage of resistance.

It is a "call for reinforcements".  Your body sends a signal to your glands to release more hormones to "hold the fort" until you cope with, adapt to, or adjust to the stressor. If multiple issues exist at the same time, prolonged stressors and continuous new stressors, can have you constantly flipping back and forth between Alert Stage and Resistance Stage, never giving you a chance to expend the energy.

Exhaustion Stage - all resistance has ceased because your body becomes depleted of its hormonal reserves
Once the Exhaustion Stage has been reached, you can become sick, chronically tired, mentally unprepared and suffer "burnout"
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell


K and Laurie, and all of us, how sad you have to live through this.  The only solution is to drop the rope, walk out.  Determine to harden yourself to them.  I have done this and it is working.  "Whatever" is beginning to be my attitude and you know what?  Since then, things have changed.  I've begun to see them differently and things are not what they seem.


I  look at it as that I have a bottom line and they found it. 


That is extremely interesting Pooh, thank you for sharing


I spent 1991-2002 flipping back and forth between alert and resistance stages, and hit full-fledged burnout in 2003.  I wonder whether I would have the health issues I currently do if I had been able to decrease my stress back then.
This too shall pass.  All is well.


no one, but no one could convince me that stress is not a major factor in disease and illnesses....


I'm not even gonna try to argue that point. I went down for the count last March after 11 years of care giving. The stress nearly took me out and I have seen cases (that I ignored in my total denial) where the care giver died first.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama


Defenitely stress does much to our mind and body.  Also negative thought, resentment and hurt our related to getting cancer.   

Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove:


Yes, and heart disease. Very dangerous stuff.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama