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Thought I'd give my last ditch effort

Started by Miss Understood, October 25, 2010, 02:34:01 PM

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luise.volta

October 29, 2010, 10:23:05 AM #75
A day without a tear? Perfect! Good for you, MU. (That way you can see the piano keys and I can hear you play from here!)  ;)
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Miss Understood

October 29, 2010, 02:32:33 PM #76
Luise...two days with out tears and today...I saw DS in traffic. He looked at me, I pretended that I didn't notice him and I didn't fall apart. I must be doing o.k......at least for 2 days. I like not crying. I have my other GD for the weekend and we are going to have a wonderful time together and I am pouring my love into her.
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luise.volta

October 29, 2010, 05:09:29 PM #77
I am so proud of you for stepping out of the victim role! Very simple but NOT easy!Bless your heart! Have super-fun with your GD!   :D :D :D
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

dablacks

October 31, 2010, 04:34:40 PM #78
This is the best thing since "sliced bread"  It's real and honest.  Thank you, Thank you. Thank you. 

Pen

October 31, 2010, 05:02:22 PM #79
You are all amazing.  ;D
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

Nana

November 01, 2010, 01:38:06 AM #80
Miss Understood

You are on the right path.  I could envisioned you driving while pretending not seeing him.  Great...feeling good ha? 

Wish you luck

Love
Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove:
Shakespeare

Miss Understood

November 01, 2010, 04:43:52 AM #81
I do feel as I am moving forward...even with the once a day 2 minute pitty party. I was hoping my DS and DIL would have brought the baby by last night because we always do a big Halloween together...but I didn't hold my breath and I didn't wait for them not to show. I did a fun night with my other GD and poured everything into her and my youngest daughter and her boyfriend. I had a nice evening and didn't feel down...just a little dissapointed. I suppose I will have lots of dissapointing days with DS from now on.
I am taking a huge step back and not calling, inviting or anything. I am listening to all of you. I am done chasing and getting kicked in the teeth. I don't deserve this and I know in my heart there is nothing I did that warranted such a "punishment" from them two.
I also set some new goals for myself this week. I am doing it week by week. I used to be minute by minute! That is why I know I am moving forward.
Thanks again for all the support ladies! I appreciate it. :)

Pooh

November 01, 2010, 06:06:15 AM #82
Way to go MU!!  Woot woot!   ;D
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

juju68

November 01, 2010, 08:06:23 AM #83
I just read this whole 6 pages of posts an I cried an cried....I am so sorry we all have to go throught this pain..it is hard to know what to do in a game we do not like...
Mu I am happy you got to see your grandchild an had a good evening..You will make it through all this..although it is one step forward an 2 steps back we will all survive this..and please do not let your mom give you all that guilt, it is not yours to carry you sound like a kind loving person:) Take care of you!!! Have a great day:)
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