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DIL's parents
« on: December 19, 2009, 10:49:20 AM »
Aaaarggghhh! They've done it again! It's their world and we just live in it.

I was so looking forward to a day with DS & DIL. They invited themselves over to cook holiday favorites, but DIL's parents, who they see every day, have pulled us all back and forth with drama and scheduling issues. After a very rough week of home and work emergencies, I wasn't in the mood to be a doormat, so I told DS I needed a definite date/time; I'd already spent lots of time and money on the project. DS sounded tired and frustrated, and of course I don't want to be part of his stress...I'll do anything just to spend a little time with him, but darn it I'm sick and tired of coming last.

Kudos, though, to DS; he told DIL his top priority was seeing us and then doing the charity work that would take up the other free day they had. DIL actually agreed, although I know it's hard for her to go against her parents. Well, DIL's parents pushed and now the plans are changed again putting me, DH and DDD in a mad rush to get everything together in a moment's notice. DH said NO, they're jacking us around again. I explained that it wasn't really DS & DIL's fault this time...I'm a sucker, I know.

Like I said, "Aaarrrghhhh!"


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Re: DIL's parents
« Reply #1 on: December 19, 2009, 01:42:45 PM »
Oh Penstaman!!
I'm am so sorry this happened again!!  Gosh!  I really am....Oh, I hope it goes well when they do come...it's hard, I know.  Drats!!! :'(


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« Reply #2 on: December 21, 2009, 07:29:58 AM »
They came, we cooked, it went pretty well...I could have done without the last minute stress of getting it all together and worrying about how the house looked, and I was very very exhausted from work and DDD and so on....but DIL tried hard to be pleasant, and DS was thrilled to have us all working on a project together! I'm not letting down all my protective gear yet, since we've been burned before, but it was great to be able to honestly say "We loved having you here!" while giving her an honest, loving hug. I'm keeping my hopes up for Christmas - DS is bound to be a little disappointed since we are not up to our usual standards this year; too many other semi-emergency things to deal with and not enough time. But we'll sure do our best, and that's all I can do.
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
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Re: DIL's parents
« Reply #3 on: December 21, 2009, 07:36:33 AM »
Great news, Penstaman!  So good to hear.... :)

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Re: DIL's parents
« Reply #4 on: December 22, 2009, 03:30:02 PM »
Aaaarggghhh! They've done it again! It's their world and we just live in it.

I was so looking forward to a day with DS & DIL. They invited themselves over to cook holiday favorites, but DIL's parents, who they see every day, have pulled us all back and forth with drama and scheduling issues. After a very rough week of home and work emergencies, I wasn't in the mood to be a doormat, so I told DS I needed a definite date/time; I'd already spent lots of time and money on the project. DS sounded tired and frustrated, and of course I don't want to be part of his stress...I'll do anything just to spend a little time with him, but darn it I'm sick and tired of coming last.

Kudos, though, to DS; he told DIL his top priority was seeing us and then doing the charity work that would take up the other free day they had. DIL actually agreed, although I know it's hard for her to go against her parents. Well, DIL's parents pushed and now the plans are changed again putting me, DH and DDD in a mad rush to get everything together in a moment's notice. DH said NO, they're jacking us around again. I explained that it wasn't really DS & DIL's fault this time...I'm a sucker, I know.

Like I said, "Aaarrrghhhh!"


yanno, I wonder, if sometimes these DIL's are unconcsiously testing they're husbands....and would like them to pull in the reins once in a while...it's proven that when a husband puts down his foot, it usually works...

Good for you...you deserves some quality time with them.....