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Does your MIL live next door??
« on: February 09, 2011, 11:46:13 AM »

I had to go on a call today and this lady I saw lived in a house on a property with 2 houses on it.
She is  such a cheerful person and she told me her MIL lives in the other house.
"Your MIL"?!!! Lives next door." Do you get on well with her"?
"Oh Yes!! I love her to bits. We have always hit it off"
That icon going across there is "Shocked" ;D

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Re: Does your MIL live next door??
« Reply #1 on: February 09, 2011, 12:08:51 PM »

I had to go on a call today and this lady I saw lived in a house on a property with 2 houses on it.
She is  such a cheerful person and she told me her MIL lives in the other house.
"Your MIL"?!!! Lives next door." Do you get on well with her"?
"Oh Yes!! I love her to bits. We have always hit it off"
That icon going across there is "Shocked" ;D

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don't be shocked, there are tons of DIL's/Mil's out there who get on very well....I have a friend, whose DIL's love her to death, and plan all kinds of events for her, as a matter of fact, the entire family is close, and they live all over the U.S. now, however, they go on vacations together, have a shore home, and for the summer months, the DIL's bring they're children to the shore home and the husbands come down on weekends.

Honestly, you'd be shocked how many are out there who do get along famously, the difference is, they have no need to be on the internet posting, b/c they have no problems...and there are always family politics, it's all in how you handle them. (in some cases)  ;D


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« Reply #2 on: February 09, 2011, 12:12:35 PM »

Yes I guess there are happy MIL DIL relationships.
This was meant to be a fun post.
I could not help but think that this lady was so cheerful because she had a nice MIL or maybe she got on with her MIL because her MIL could not resist her cheerfulness --Who knows?

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Re: Does your MIL live next door??
« Reply #3 on: February 09, 2011, 12:15:11 PM »
My girlfriend is about to get married. She lives next door to her FSIL (who introduced her to her now-FH). They can't stand one another. They fight as they take out the trash. Both of their stories make me laugh.

I hope they work it out someday. They are soon going to be married to brothers. I can't imagine that holiday dinner...

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« Reply #4 on: February 09, 2011, 12:33:52 PM »

There must have been a time when they did get on if she introduced her to someone.
Maybe she prefers the other brother (The one her SIL is marrying) and regrets introducing them.
Who knows.  :-\

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« Reply #5 on: February 09, 2011, 12:42:43 PM »
She said she only introduced them for a fling (she ran into the bride to be at a bar), nothing serious. I guess it got too serious for her!

I think if she can spot a possible couple that quick, she should quit her day job!

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Re: Does your MIL live next door??
« Reply #6 on: February 09, 2011, 01:12:23 PM »
Oh, I love that, HB!  ;D ;D ;D ;D
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« Reply #7 on: February 09, 2011, 01:20:50 PM »
A fling that got bling!  ;D
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« Reply #8 on: February 09, 2011, 09:05:38 PM »
Catchingup, I do think one's attitude going in can set the tone. Not a fakey-fakey suck up attitude that changes the minute the ring is on DIL's finger (my DIL?) but an honest desire to be civil and perhaps even friendly for the sake of harmony in the family. If MIL & DIL truly love their DS/DH, you'd think they'd want to get along for his benefit.

Will you have more visits with this duo? It would be interesting to see how they progress as time goes by.
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« Reply #9 on: February 09, 2011, 09:30:24 PM »
MIL is in her eighties and DIL is 60 so the progress has been ongoing
They built the house for MIL on their plot when FIL died

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« Reply #10 on: February 11, 2011, 10:18:47 AM »
If MIL & DIL truly love their DS/DH, you'd think they'd want to get along for his benefit.

Pen - I love my DH, my MIL loves my DH, but it is impossible sometimes to get along.  It's like oil and water.
I was going out with a man for a long time who had wonderful parents. I would visit with them, we'd do things with them, they treated me like family and vice versa.  Unfortunatly, he passed away.  I wish I could have them for in-laws.  But sadly you don't get to choose. 

Sometimes it just doesn't work.  My MIL now is a narcissitic person (who was diagnosed by the way by a licensed counselor so I'm not just saying that)  She brags about money and people who she perceives as socially as good as she is, who she says are "friends of theirs".  This is non stop.  It is both tiresome and frustrating.  My husband deals with it because "that's just how she is."  But she is SO different from me.  So we get along when we have to see each other, but other than that, I don't have contact with her.

So, I guess you could say, we get along for his benefit, but it will NEVER be more. 

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« Reply #11 on: February 11, 2011, 10:57:30 AM »
I see nothing wrong with that Maria.  I married my DH, not his family, but it is still a package deal.  I don't have to love all of them or even like all of them, but I can still be nice and make an effort.
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« Reply #12 on: February 11, 2011, 11:02:49 AM »
You can't force love can ya... but you can be polite, mannerly, lol and well groomed, that we do have control over.  I say that as my dd and bf are going to arrive soon and I'm still in my caftan (moo-moo to you who don't wear them) and needing a shower.

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« Reply #13 on: February 11, 2011, 11:03:48 AM »
You have no excuse now, you got a new blow dryer.
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« Reply #14 on: February 11, 2011, 11:07:20 AM »
oh my gosh.. yes I do.. ok.. jumping into the shower...  I had my son and his gf on skype today and forgot to ask if they ever saw one of those gun dryers... have you seen the boob scarfs?