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A little Valentine sympathy for DS/DH - the man in the middle.

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luise.volta

February 06, 2011, 12:11:39 PM #45
You think that the concept that we offer each other a great deal of support is crap? ???
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

February 06, 2011, 12:13:52 PM #46
See, told you I had the gift!
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Pooh

February 08, 2011, 09:57:30 AM #47
Thought I would share something I just found for DH for Valentine's day.  It's actually for us, but DH loves nothing more than when we do something together. 

It was a $50 special a local dance studio was running for Valentines.  2 private lessons, 1 everybody dance class and an after party.  He gets to choose the dance he wants.  They offer all types including ball room and latin.

Now, my DH loves to try new things, and likes when we can do something together, so he will love this!  I bought 2 things full of silk rose petals, and I plan on him finding a trail of them leading from the garage to upstairs, where I shall be waiting with his certificate appropriately displayed.  ;)
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Pen

February 08, 2011, 10:08:55 AM #48
Oh good grief, my DH is now sticking the acupuncture needles in his other eye.
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

LaurieS

February 08, 2011, 10:12:26 AM #49
lol Pen

Pooh

February 08, 2011, 10:28:57 AM #50
Lol Pen!  Now now....come on....it's lots of fun......
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Pen

February 08, 2011, 10:54:00 AM #51
It sounds like great fun to me. To DH, not so much.
Respect ... is appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.
-- Annie Gottlieb

Pooh

February 08, 2011, 10:57:31 AM #52
Well he's missing out then! Lol.  But remember, I have the DH that took me on a date to the pottery place and we painted plates for each other.  He'll try anything once.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

luise.volta

February 08, 2011, 11:20:55 AM #53
I think we need to clone that guy!  :D
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

MotherOf3

February 22, 2011, 09:31:10 AM #54
I'm sorry but I just don't get a mother wanting a Valentine from her son.  I have a 25 year old son and it never crossed my mind that he would/should get me a Valentine card or gift.  Seriously, I never even thought about it until I started seeing posts on the subject.

Valentine's day is for lovers, sweethearts, spouses.  Not for a son to his mother.

luise.volta

February 22, 2011, 09:52:37 AM #55
If you are talking about romantic love, of course you are right. However, children give Valentines to grandma and grandpa and that is about generic love in my book. There are many lovely Valentines that are for DIL, SIL, etc. I sent one to my DIL. I also sent one to three of my best friends. My son doesn't send me one and I don't send him one...but I would not be offended if he did. Just my take on this. I think it's perceptual and custom-oriented.

My son recently wrote me this: "My entire life I've had a Mom who loved me; one who is interested, is an excellent sounding board, has wise advice and has always been there at the best and worst of times. Not all that common. I'm grateful. Love, Kirk"

Who needs a Valentine?  :D
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

Pooh

February 22, 2011, 10:02:47 AM #56
He's such a good fella Luise. 

I am with Luise.  I wouldn't send my son one, but if a Mother just likes to send cards for every holiday, I wouldn't have an issue with it.  My Ex-MIL would send a card for every holiday.  I never took exception to it, because it was just how she was.  Now, if Valentine's was the only holiday and she wanted to spend it with my Ex-DH, I probably would have found that strange.
We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. -
Joseph Campbell

Rose799

February 22, 2011, 10:50:50 AM #57
Quote from: luise.volta on February 22, 2011, 09:52:37 AM
Who needs a Valentine?  :D

Certainly not you, Luise~  That's gold, pure gold!

luise.volta

February 22, 2011, 11:26:48 AM #58
Oh, Rose I am so excited. Kirk is coming a week from today to stay for three weeks. They have a place 7 miles down the road, so he can have a retreat, but we still hang out often and it is just wonderful. I haven't seen him since October 10th when he moved me into my HUD apartment. Long time! My birthday is March 9th and he always does this every year. Then the both come for three months in the summer.  ;D ;D ;D
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama

holliberri

February 22, 2011, 11:29:15 AM #59
Luise, that sounds wonderful! Very exciting!
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