« Last post by jdtm on April 19, 2015, 12:34:53 PM »
We had much the same situation with our son's first wife. She did not like us nor did she want us in her/their life (but we were "handy" when it came to babysitting). I, too, tried to make things right. It did not work; the harder I tried, the more distant the relationship until she refused to speak or even acknowledge our existence. Our son became "almost" estranged from us.
Later, I found out that our son was under tremendous stress - trying to appease his parents and also trying to keep peace in his home. It is quite possible that if you feel "stressed and exhausted" while visiting their home, your son probably feels that way most of the time. My husband and I found it much better to not speak of anything negative; in fact, not even mention "her" unless our son brought up the topic (which was rare). I wish we had known earlier that by not mentioning "her", it gave him a "soft place to fall". He, too, would remember things differently and we would be accused of forgetting or changing "how it really was". Actually, our son was brainwashed by a wife with mental health and substance abuse issues - we were so out of our league.
I hope your situation is not as precarious as ours; however, you did find your way here. Often, we are dealing with situations beyond our realm of knowledge or prior experience or as Luise says - "one cannot make sense out of the senseless". I know you do not deserve this treatment - so sorry ....