« Last post by MiaY on October 22, 2014, 06:47:46 PM »
I need some guidance.. My son and I have been close, yet he was a very independent child. But as an adult (22 through 31), we were very close. He was there to protect me when his dad was going through Interferon. He called me at least weekly, escorted me to my 35th class reunion and bought me drinks all evening long. He asked me to go shopping with him to buy his girlfriend's engagement ring. Asked his future mother-in-law if we could come down for Thanksgiving. He is/was very critical of his future mother-in-law cuz she is an drunk. But since he has gotten engaged, he is now very critical of me. (He is a bartender by trade). He told his dad that he did not want me drinking while I was there for dinner. Yet the family own a vineyard.. DUH!! He was critical about what my husband and I would be wearing. (Nothing fancy.. blue jeans and short sleeve for my husband, me black skinny jeans and boots and a red sweater). We stayed for dinner and then left to stay at a motel a few miles away and the next day came home. I had 2 glasses of wine at dinner, nothing before or after. When our son came to pick up stuff we brought back for him, he told his dad that he found me to be disgusting. Fast forward to Christmas.. We had a "misfit" Christmas dinner for anyone who did not have a place to eat. We stopped buying gifts about 7 yrs earlier because our son didn't like buying into the commercial aspect of the season. (now I think he is just cheap). 5 minutes before he and his fiancee arrived, some other friends showed up and opened a bottle of wine. Long story short, he poured the rest of my wine out (without my knowledge and stole my bottle opener), made a scene, apologized to his dad and they left with him calling me a drunk. I swore at him. I have seen him face to face twice with him being very hurtful. Today was the 2nd time that I showed up at his house and he was yelling at me that he does not want my drama and how dare I show up unannounced. When I brought up what he had said to his dad about me, he said that I was drunk and to get my drama stories right. (making my sweating at him the total reason why I will never see him again! I am so loss. It will be a year in December.