Thanks Pooh & Pen for sharing you stories.
You know what? Although I feel badly for you both, your comments make me realize that my problem isn't so bad after all... I can't imagine being estranged from my own children
. I really hope that with time, you will heal. Or better yet, I hope your DS will turn themselves around and give you the honor that you deserve.
I agree with you about karma. I believe in the law of "what goes around comes around". I sincerely hope that MIL and I can work things out. Its not that I need her in my life, but DH and DC do. I had a very close relationship with my GM and want my kids to have the same thing. And even if I hated my MIL, I still think DH should maintain a relationship with her. That's his mom after all.
I also agree with your opinion on relationships with Mothers as we get older & marry. As a kid, I thought of my mom as the perfect angel. To this day, she is still the most important woman in my life. I don't think that will ever change. But, I could she how it would change for sons.
My MIL appears to be having a VERY difficult time excepting that the roles have changed, I'm trying to be as understanding as possible. Its not easy for me either. I've never dealt with a person like my MIL before... I will never refuse her the right to she her DS and GC, but I might have to keep her at arms length if she refuses to improve how she conducts herself. There are just some people in life you have to keep at a distance, even (sadly) if their family.