Like Luise, I had to learn that I could not "fix" it. Boy, I sure wish that I had learned that lesson sooner - the only persons I hurt were ME and my loving husband. We did move away from our family and that has been a blessing. A favourite aunt of mine who carried many many burdens said that "if I dwelled on my burdens, I would have no life, so I focus only on the good things". We all love her and her life is still "heavy with burdens" (she is over 90) but she is always upbeat. I think it surprised our son that we could actually survive and thrive without them!
Buy a good mystery book, join a gym, take a college course - whatever - life does go on. And, sometimes when one least expects it, the wandering ones return. Enjoy the new year ....