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My 22 year old son, has just recently told us he has been suffering depression for years and as his mother I should have known. Looking back he was a very bad tempered teen, who spent most of his time in his bedroom on his computer, but I thought that was normal for a teenage boy. He today said that the reason he did badly in school was because when he was 6 he asked me a question and I shouted at him. This caused he to be afraid to asking questions so he was never to engage in school ever again. He also said that we told him to think before he spoke on quite a few occasions so thats why he cant speak to people. All told to us in floods of tears.
He is in therapy and I can see that he is very unhappy but feel he is looking at any negative comment made in the last 20 years to be the reason for his problems. He can't be bothered to go to work and is being supported by myself and my husband which we cant afford. We seem to have good weeks where I think there is some improvement then everything goes black again. We both love him dearly but don't know  how to deal with things. We feel like we are walking on egg shells. I know he lies to me about a lot of things so I cant believe that he is telling me the truth that he has stopped smoking weed. (I said if I found any in the house he would have to leave)
We want to give the therapy a chance but feel that he is taking us down into depression.