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Quote from: Love Me Love Me Not on November 17, 2013, 04:18:28 PM
I understand what you are saying Dixie Darlin', but the influence of this woman and the great need she has or makes him think she has, seem to override everything else in his life. We brought him up well. If anything we gave him too much. He was taught to do chores, however, from the time he was young. He worked summers in school when he was old enough. If he broke the rules as all teenagers do, he was disciplined fairly. We had a lot of fun together. We took him on some great vacations. We loved him. We rewarded good behavior. We even taught him how to cook and clean, etc. He was never the best student in school. He was just more mechanically talented rather than academically interested. He was so smart, he could learn almost anything very fast. We recognized early on that his talents and the work he enjoyed lay elsewhere than a life behind a desk. We accepted that and taught him to live up to his responsibilities whether they were his favorite things to do or not, meet the requirements that he needed to and do the work that suited him. He has a great job. We tried to talk to him many times, but he simply hung up the phone. All mail, calls,texts, etc. are now intercepted and or monitored by her. It became clear to us that she monitors everything that he does. In the interest of the children and him, we do not want to make things more difficult with our needs. I' :)ve read about people just like her and how they manipulate others who are unsuspecting for a long time. it often takes years for a person to figure out what is going on, but they must figure it out for themselves. If a person contributes to a position where their child feels he has to choose between his spouse and his parents, he will always choose his spouse I believe, unless he is already discovering the depth of her problems.