Never have I had an issue with her. Great kid. No drugs, never a B on her report card. Driven and followed rules. I don't think she was grounded except for one short occasion and it was something that was not too bad. She met a boy...Oh, boy! He is 23 and we didn't know him well and neither did she when she decided to move in with him and 3 other male room mates to his house after 1 month of dating...all this happened while my DH and I were on vacation for the first time without her. We let go, knowing she is smart. We didn't know she quit school, we had no idea yet. After 3 weeks of barely any contact with her and a partially cleaned out bedroom here at home, I packed her room up and called her to come get her things because I was going to remodel her room as a guest room. 1 week later (after I remodeled) she shows up...cried and things came out. He has an anger problem, control issue (which we already saw by her not being able to come to our house or him not coming around) she decided to have dinner with us and was afraid to tell him. She had me go with her to pick up a dress and an overnight bag (just in case) then she called him. He blew up and followed us by a tracker he had on her phone. He made a scene in the parking lot and after 4 days of stalking and begging my husband and I and my DD telling him she wanted space we almost had to put a restraining order on him. One night my daughter awoke us in the middle of the night that something happened to him and she wanted to go to the house because she thought he hurt himself or something. We went with her and called 911 to find it was manipulation and an anxiety attack. We thought she saw this and was done when he dumped her things in our front yard and it took me 2 days to put her bedroom back together and me consoling her crying. She even went to a ladies retreat with me and unloaded on lots of women who now support her to stay away. She committed to moving on...until 24 hours after she arrived home and he got to her. She now wants to move back in...less than 1 week from the 1 week of hell we all went through and threatens to do to us what her brother has done. Her BF even texted me threatening the same. What to do? She is unrecognizable and even though she is an adult, we hold the title to the car and pay the bills because she was going to college. We laid down the law and told her she can get a loan for the car, buy one she can afford or figure it out. We don't think moving in with this guy who has so many issues is a good thing and we cannot support that. She is using the almighty trump card and trying to hold me hostage to get her way.
I need wisdom ladies. Been there and done that before and with all the pain I went throw with my DS, I can't bare to go through this. I just started really living again.
Help!