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Hi I am new to this Forum, but need wise counsel. My DD has been estranged from me for nearly 6 years. I do not know the cause and she will not discuss it. I also have DS 7 years younger she is 38. I was thrilled to hear that she is getting married on March 18th, but I am not invited, the ONLY member of my entire family left out. I have respected her wishes and over the years, but sent birthday and Christmas presents, to let her know that the door is still open, sometimes I am thanked, sometimes not.
I am absolutely gutted her decision.
However I have lived with a Narcissistic Mother and the same for my daughter. I now realise that my DM has 'kidnapped' my daughter, she will of course be going to the wedding.
The manipulation being if I do not go and don't make a fuss, may be my DD just might open up communications, after the wedding of course. I doubt it.
So how does one move forward and deal with the pain? I also have to face my DM after the wedding, I feel like putting her into a home and leaving her. She gave me religious advice when she knows perfectly well I do not believe in her religion. So your help please.....
I am absolutely gutted her decision.
However I have lived with a Narcissistic Mother and the same for my daughter. I now realise that my DM has 'kidnapped' my daughter, she will of course be going to the wedding.
The manipulation being if I do not go and don't make a fuss, may be my DD just might open up communications, after the wedding of course. I doubt it.
So how does one move forward and deal with the pain? I also have to face my DM after the wedding, I feel like putting her into a home and leaving her. She gave me religious advice when she knows perfectly well I do not believe in her religion. So your help please.....