WiseWomenUnite.com

I never thought I would ever be saying this out loud. I haven't told any of my co workers or friends at church because besides being hurt I don't know what happened. Oh I know people say that all the time. But I'm serious. One day everything was fine and the next I'm not allowed in her home. I have five kids and four of them still speak to me, rare but they speak and visit with me.  But my oldest daughter has made up her mind that I am completely disposable. I know things got complicated with her sister (always in trouble always needing something) And I was there for her every time, just like I have been for all of them. I think this is where it stems from. But I'm just guessing, no one will tell me why. I think my oldest daughter thought I always gave the other one more attention and loved her children more than my oldest daughters kids. While it is true that my middle daughter lived with me and I cared for her children. I was naturally closer to that grandchild, he lived in my household for 9 years. But my middle daughter got into some serious trouble and my oldest daughter volunteered to let the 9 year old live with their family until school was out. (four months) I gave them support and money and clothes and toys and tried to make sure that her own children were not giving up anything. Then one day she just wouldn't let me in the house. She wouldn't answer her phone. Shut down her facebook and all social media and she kept my grandson. At first I just thought she was angry with me because I forgave my middle daughter her mistakes and continued to be there for her. But she literally has stolen my grandson and wont let me see him or talk to him. I have never grieved any loss more than this. Our whole family fell apart. No more holiday meals no more birthday parties, no more making memories. And why? She wont say. I sometimes drive by their house to just get a glance at my grandchildren, but I live 3 hours away and work long hours. So trips out there just to drive by a house just isn't worth it. Every time I do go, my heart breaks again and it has seriously affected my life and everyone elses. All my children have scattered and nothing legal has ever been done about my grandson that I raised. None of the other children agree with her actions. But if they know why their not saying. I'm totally lost. I lived for all my kids and then lived for my grandchildren. But I have lost everything. And I dont know why even. Is there anyone who has ever heard of this situation?