my 18 year old son is so lost....

[luise.volta]

And I think you could have gotten in trouble since she is under aged. Some states call if rape when the are minors, whether they consent or not. We're all proud of you!

[tjc9226]

im glad someone is proud of me...cause i feel so bad..i know that i am doing the right thing...but it scares me that he is moving to Nebraska and he dont have anyone or anything there....everyone tells me tough love is the hardest thing to give to a child...i think that is an understatement...  :'(

[luise.volta]

I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time. Sending love...

[tjc9226]

well my hubby saw my DS and of course his GF... we dropped off his clothing...he said to me mom why cant you be happy for me..all i could say was...i wish you the best and know that i love you.....he couldnt give me a hug or say i love you...he said ill see ya when i see ya....while his GF stood behind him with that smerk on her face...got back in my car and  i left...crying all the way home...i figured out that my DS does love me but just dont care about me right now....in time hopefully things will change but until then ...i put him in God's hands....

[Pooh]

As hard as it seems now, you are doing what's best tjc.  You know it, we know it, and hopefully someday, he will realize it.  Until then......hey hey hey....living in a beach house!!!!  What a great setting to find yourself again.

[Nana]

TJC

Of course your son loves you and really wants you to be happy.  But things are how they are for now.  Of course he will change, he is only 18...he is a kid.   At 18...they are far from the persons they will be.  Just hold on and pray for him.   Put him in God's hands and he will be just fine.

It is hard but you are not alone.  You have your hubby, enjoy him.  Sometimes parents can only wait for these children of ours to come to their senses.  They usually do!  They know love!

May God Bless you.

[cremebrulee]

TJC, I am not only proud of you, but you are one awesome lady...yes tough love really really is the most difficult thing on the planet to do....but if your son were drowning, and you couldn't swim, instinct would drive you in to save him, right?
Well what you have done is the best decission you could make for him and for you and everyone else concerned....it was the most selfless most courageous and well, you are simply awesome....I'm behind you 150%  Not many people could do this and would find all the reasons not to do it....

you are allowing him to learn his own way and at the same time, letting him know your there for him...if he needs you...

Standing ovation for TJC whooo, whoooo, whooo
you have no thing to doubt or regret....whenever you make a decission that doesn't only benefit self, but everyone else involved, you can't loose...



big hugs and love
creme

[tjc9226]

Creme...Nana....and Pooh..thank you so much...with out you guys telling me what to expect and giving me the courage ..i could not of gone through this...i would still be giving into my DS....all of you are a God sent to me...and i cherish all your advice and praises....thank you!!!!!

[Freeasabird]

Hi i got to say that i feel terrible mother but our children do lie they do use us its incredibly hard sometimes we have to let them go if they need us we pray they can come back.  To sit there and know your child cant look you in the eye and tell truth is sad.

[luise.volta]

Yes, a lot of this stuff is really, really hard. Sending love...