A letter to MIL....aka a corny poem! Woo hoo!

[thelaststraw]

Okay, so I don’t believe in iambic pentameter, and when I rhyme I come across as cheesy.  I wrote a little poem for MIL a while back, and while I will NEVER have the courage to send it to her, it made me feel better to get it out on paper.  Reading it now it almost sounds callous, but really it’s just the way that I was feeling about her behavior at the time.  Well, here goes…
Dear MIL,
You think I can’t hear your criticism, I hear every word….
You think that your hatred of me goes unnoticed, but I see it in your eyes.
You want DH all to yourself, yet you have to share him with me….
You think my family is beneath you, yet they’re the most loving family you could ask for.
You keep trying to drive DH away from me, yet we fall more in love every day….
When will you realize that this is a battle no one can win?
Your pushing and shoving does nothing but tear the man you raised in half,
And you make him feel like he needs to choose.
Oh dear MIL, the meaner you act, the kinder I’ll be;
And I can’t be all bad; after all, your son did pick me.
I love that you think that I’m spineless and cruel,
When all I’m guilty of is trying to love you.
You keep pushing and pushing, but I refuse to push back.
You’re looking for my breaking point, and I understand that.
MIL I don’t really know where to begin,
But you’re waging a war that I’m afraid you won’t win.

[luise.volta]

Have You given that a title? How about..."If I Won't Fight; There's No War"

[Hope]

Thelaststraw,
I loved reading your poem.  It says so much about how you feel and it made my heart stir.  You seem like a sweet person who justs wants to get along.  Why do the sweet people sometimes get stuck with the difficult people?  I wish all the difficult people could be matched up together and all the sweet people could be put together.  Each deserves the other.  Be strong and know that you are loved.
Hugs, Hope 

[cremebrulee]

it is human to be hurt and angry when someone acts like this...but it is the rejection which I believe hurts the most...the trials and tribulations seem endless.  It is surely like a war waged...and when you think about it, it all seems so silly...when there could be love, peace and harmony...my heart goes out to you...and I do like Luise's suggestion for a title...it's good that you write, so that you can go back later and read how you felt at the time...keep on writing...in the meantime...hang tight...things may change with time, when you least expect them to...

Hugs

[Nana]

Hope:  You are right.  Good idea.  Matching good peaple with good people, bad with bad.   But imagine bad + bad ==== caos. 
I was thinking.  Sometimes the hard one is dil and sometimes mil.    But I think it is worse a mil having problems with dil because we mil have more to lose.    Having a bad mil is also a burden.....  but is less painfrul.  More things are at stake for mil's  dont you think?

Thelaststraw:    I like the way that you express your pain.  I agree you sound really nice and sweet.    I also write a lot (poems, lyrics or whatever) when I need to ventilate.  It helps a lot.  I also write letters that I never send or show to anyone.  It helps me a lot.  I have being doing this all my life.      I wish you the best.

[luise.volta]

About 30 years ago when life thew quite a lot at me, I journeled regularly. Some times I would write such large words that two or three would fill and full page! Talk about venting! No one ever saw it, of course. that was the point. :-)

[Hope]

I agree with Nana - mil's have so much more to lose when in a complicated relationship with dil's.  Difficult mil's can make dil's lives uncomfortable, but if dil's want to, they can just cut off mil along with the gc.  Ouch!
Hugs, Hope