update on daughter arrested

[JaneF]

Oh the drama continues in my daughters life.  She was to appear for arraignment for assault charge the 8th of February.  She didn't appear, so a warrant issued for her.  She was picked up, and there is a $1000 cash only bond, which she or her felon husband can't come up with.  I worry because she will sit there until they set a new court date, and her husband has my two young grandsons.  He doesn't treat them fairly, and now with my daughter locked up I fear he may be harder on them.  I am over 3 hours away though and legally cannot just go take them from him.  Good grief, that girl will never get it together!  But at least she can't abuse the prescription drugs for a short time, so maybe in the long run she will go get help.  I refuse to step in and rescue her, I am so glad I finally am in a place where I am taking care of me, and refusing to put up with their drama!  Also update on son coming today and bringing grandaughters to visit...I texted with son this morning and the entire family is sick.  Glad he chose to make it another day since I really do not want the sickness to spread up here!  He ended text by saying he loves me though....wow, some things never cease to amaze me. lol  My grandaughter I am raising has asthma, so it isn't good for her to get flu junk obviously, we will meet another day.  Hope you all have a great weekend!

[nikncon]

 :)Hang in there Jane!Take care of yourself.You have had enough drama in the last few months.Hugs.

[Pen]

Thanks for the update, JaneF. In spite of all that's still going on, you sound stronger and more empowered. Good for you!

[JaneF]

I am doing quite well, thank you all so much!  I am not feeling upset in the least.  I do have a bit of concern for my grandsons, but since I cannot control the situation I musn't dwell on it.  The warrant was served, so my best guess is my daughter is sitting in a lovely little square room, wearing a very unbecoming bright colored jumpsuit at this point...since there is a cash only bond set and she and her loser felon addict husband don't have any funds!!!  Awwwwwww.  She will most likely be a guest there until arraignment date is set, oh well, not my problem.  Tempting to send her a nice card with a "get out of jail free card" drawn inside!!! lol  But I won't,  don't want to waste a stamp.  I am getting ready here soon to enjoy a nice jaccuzi tub soak, then pick a nice outfit because I am going to lunch with my sister in law, then we are off to attend a baby shower for her soon to arrive first grandchild!  My grandaughter had a friend over to spend the night last night, and they are having quite a good time.  Dear husband plans to go to the grocery store after he gets off work today...life is good!  I hope all of you enjoy a glorious day!  I know I plan to!  J

[Pooh]

You are doing wonderful Jane!

[firelight]

My heart always sinks and breaks when there are innocent kids involved.....but we cannot save the world but I feel for those babes.  So not fair!  However, we cannot always rush in and rescue especially from afar......I mostly want to slap the adults in the situation.....but taking a Jacuzzi tub bath sounds way better!  Enjoy....wish I had one of those tubs!!!!   

[JaneF]

Gotta shake my head and wonder what planet my daughter is from!  She left her newlywed husband and said he is still not treating my grandsons well  (gee did she think he'd really change after 3 years???)...and she left with ANOTHER fella four years younger than her!  They are all living with his parents another hour farther away from us.  I called the phone number she called from and spoke to that new fellas mother to ask about my grandsons.  She told me he will be put in the new school on Tuesday!  So he was pulled out of yet another school and will go to a new one once again, poor child.  Her life is a soap opera!  I am still doing quite well.  That lady seemed nice enough and said the boys were very cute, and they were doing well.  Of course I cannot see this for myself, but time will tell.  lol  If I get a call to go get the children from family services I will, but until that time I will continue to just take care of me!  Feels so much better since I do not let her issues affect me badly.  Thanks for listening to my saga once again ladies!

[firelight]

Those poor boys.  How does she expect them to do well in school with all the changes?  I'm think maybe she should give them up to a loving family member while she carouses the world.  (that's my thought if it were my own DD).  Let them have a decent life. 

I get what you mean about "what planet is she from".  I have felt that way myself about my own DD. 

[artlady]

I do admire your strength in this situation and the fact you r able to let it go so not to add more stress to your life. I hope to get there soon but it is so new that I"ve not lived it long enough to get there .  I wonder also what planet these kids are from in some of these situations. Seem to be raised one way but when adults they change to sometihng or someone you dont' know anymore . Good luck and keep up the your strength and take care of yourself and those dear little ones.