Awww...Luise I would love to see a picture of your beautiful Great Granddaughter!
I have also wished to share pictures of my Darling little five month old Isabel. She truly delights the heart!
Yes, Luise you are right. He is how he is. He's a very simple person, but somehow he's complex in his simplicity.
Hi Jane, yes she is taking the joy out of it for me. I only hope that she's not always that way with DS. He just sounded so emotionally drained yesterday. I know he loves her and he wants her to be happy. He knows it makes her unhappy if he has a relationship with us so he limits his contact with his FOO. I know this bothers him. During one of his few visits when we were discussing the baby and he made it clear that he wanted his family to be a part of the baby's life, he said he told her that he was going to be bringing the baby by without her, and that it wasn't fair that they spent all their time with her family and he never got to spend time with his family. He's torn. I never say a word about him coming over more, or calling more. I just let it be. I'm okay with it really. This is gonna sound mean, but DH and I was actually happy that they spent most of their time hanging out with her family. We don't mind a visit now and then, but the last thing we want is to see them ALL THE TIME!!! LOL
Oh, and it was DS that posted it on his facebook page. She has one, but rarely post anything. At least the last time I checked. Which was this morning because I was curious to see if she was going to write something mean. To her credit, she didn't. I will not be visiting again. It's like looking for trouble and who needs that?
Pooh, you aren't playing devil's advocate...You are pretty much repeating what my DH said.
When he saw that I was upset in the supermarket and I explained what happened the first thing he said was why did I write him in the first place. And then he said I should have took the hint when he didn't friend me. In hindsight I now see that I should have left well enough alone, only because it upset her and that upset him. However, if she didn't get mad about it, I don't think DS would have been upset. It was not a mean message. She wants him to have no or very limited contact with his family. It has to be all about her and her family and DS is beginning to show signs of not approving of that.
On facebook your account can be open to the public or private. I'm sure DS and FDIL know these things. They aren't big on facebook. Their post are far and few between. Unlike a lot of people I know who post their every thought and event on FB, FDIL, DS and even me, rarely, and I mean rarely post. I could understand if their pages were like journals and my happening to look them up would seem intrusive. But it's not like that at all and I felt no harm in letting him know I saw his post about the baby and that I was proud of him. I won't do it again, not because I think DS was upset that I did. I won't because I know it upset her and when she's upset it gets directed toward him.
I don't have to like her (I wish I did. I really, truly tried) but he likes her and that's what counts. This is their family. It's not about me. At the end of the day I lay beside my DD (darling dog) who is beside my DH and we go to sleep in our peaceful home. DS needs to do whatever he has to do to maintain his peaceful home. If that means siding with FDIL that's what he should do. I've got my own life. He needs to take care of his. I understand that.
