tried pulling back isnt working - think it may be jealousy :-(

[Doe]

You know, when my children were young, a neighbor with older children said to watch out - that children can suck your life energy away - I looked at him and thought he was crazy.  He was an artist and he was talking about how much energy children siphon off a person's other creative energy. 
Another person mentioned something about the game of "raising children" and again, I thought he was nuts and didn't have a clue about the real situation.

I wish I had taken those thoughts to heart!  I fell backwards into giving so much over to my children for decades but it's a struggle to get myself back! 

Congrats on the weight loss!  I had to go to a conversion chart - that's 28 lbs!  I lost about 10 and am stuck for a while.

[Pen]

...Pen, Beth, i have other family members & friends on there who are in far flung places who i wish to keep in touch with and FB is easier...

Most of my family and many of my friends are far away from me, overseas, etc. so I understand, Jill. They all use FB to keep in touch, which adds to my resentment regarding my situation w/DIL/DS that I am too uncomfortable to join in. Just another way the situation w/DS & DIL impacts my life. More and more I feel like I'm on the outside looking in, but what can I say w/o sounding whiney, pathetic and clingy?

Best of luck to you on your journey, Jill.

[luise.volta]

My take: It seems to me that many of us have FB issues. I have an account and with my son in Kauai, my grandson in Canada and my 18 year-old great granddaughter in France…(I am in the U.S.,) yes, they are certainly far flung. I go there when I want to make a general statement or post a picture for one and all, like the one of Val on his 100th birthday that I posted here…but generally speaking email is more effective for me. A lot of FB in my experience at least is pretty superficial and I like the one-on-one feeling of email. What I say to one person is not always what I would announce worldwide and the same is true for most of those near and dear. We take the time to be more focused and intimate. Those who don't want to do that…are not my immediate support system, nor am I theirs. We get to pick and choose the type and level of communication we prefer, as do others.

[Pooh]

You also have to take personal responsibility for it.  Like Luise said, I keep my stuff to funnies, quotes, pics that I don't care to share.  I don't post drama, family problems and other stuff.  I hide people's posts and restrict others.  It is my tool to keep up with long distance friends and family and I enjoy it.  It's my responsibility, no one else's to use it responsibly.  I can't control what others do, but I can control if I want to see it or not or have them as friends on my page.  I deleted my twitter account because it just wasn't for me.  I could have cared less if someone was going to the bathroom and would be right back.  Lol.  Do I deleted my account.  Others love it.

Pen admits she doesn't think she could handle the drama it would cause her.  Then she is taking personal responsibility and not using it...that's smart because she knows herself.  I've had people tell me that so-and-so is driving them bonkers on their facebook and constantly hurting their feelings.  I go, "then hide them, delete them, whatever."  They say, "Oh, I couldn't do that."  Well, IMO then, they are not causing you issues, you are doing it to yourself.  I just hid one of my classmates this morning that I actually really like but she kept posting some pretty offensive jokes and pictures.  I don't want to see them so I hid her.  She is making her choices, I have to make mine.