My ex just married the stripper he was cheating on me with 2 months ago. She is addicted to Rx pills. I have not seen my oldest son since 2003 and that was at my mothers funeral. He wants nothing to do with me. My ex told the divorce judge I abandoned my family! I was never once asked why I decided to walk out. My ex's boss knew the divorce judge, they were close friends and he told my ex, if he wanted a divorce, he would get him one. I was outnumbered and outpowered!
My daughter and youngest son talk to me, but only if I don't say anything that upsets them or else its called nonsense. My youngest son did say this was his dads fault.
I ended up becoming a bad alcoholic, as I was using alcohol to cope. I have been sober 5 yrs. now though. Of course, that was all the more ammunition for them to use against me. Although, all 3 of my adult kids drink, and that of course, too, is my fault.
My ex was very controlling and used male superiority on me. I felt like I was nothing more than a slave to him and our kids. He refused to go to marriage counseling of any kind. Claimed it was all pop psychology BS! He's a rock head and no one can tell him anything! He's a workaholic and thinks money is the key to everything. My kids usually side with him because he has money and I don't. Although, when I got my divorce settlement, the 2 younger ones were always around and asking me for money.
I have tried to move on and make a life for myself. I live on a small Soc. Security check, but at least I have peace of mind.