Thank you all so much. I am just hoping all stays heading in the right direction as it is now. If it doesn't, there will be another choice for me to make regarding myself and my GD. So, I am really hoping DD and SIL grow up and embrace their sobriety and find work so their family can have a decent life. At least a livable one! So far, so good. I know he will be evicted from his room after 2/15/12 (I paid for this last month's rent so he didn't have to withdrawals in the snow). DD and SIL know that there will be no more rent payments from me (fair warning). SIL still has a current warrant out for his arrest (for drug paraphernalia) and I have suggested he get that addressed ASAP. Since the homeless shelter will not take those with warrants out.
So, we've a long way to go, but I have done all I can to assist them going in the right direction. As it stands right now, DD and SIL are both clean and sober. No one has a job (or vehicle) yet so I suggest they get busy finding work. I am no longer going to be giving this common sense direction either...I shouldn't have to tell 2 capable adults "it's time to find a job"!!! They will either make it or they won't. I have agreed to give transportation if needed to their outpatient rehab meetings (but I will not be the public bus for their every desire for a ride). I will no longer be paying rent, or providing food unless DD and GD are actually here in my home then I will meet GD needs of course since she is only 1. I have suggested food pantry's if they need food from which they declined to go to recently. I know they don't have much food at all now but that is their problem. From here on out, it is up to them. They have been costly to me for years. It's time for them to buck up and grow up.
