Needing some input and a hug,,,

[Doe]

  I think its a silent, adult temper tantrum.

Brilliant insight, Ruth!

[BlueEyes]

  Okay, I'm back in the classroom for another lesson and probably another visit just for comfort.

I am doing my days. 

YDD sent a text saying she didn't hear from me after she texted us telling us to go ahead with our plans.  She had friends and/or husband who could take her to her first two monitoring appointments with the doctor.

I sent her a card snail mail letting her know that we appreciate that she has got her appointments covered and would like to hear how they go.  Also, that we would be happy to help with her other appointments. 

My birthday came.  Celebrated in small ways with ODD call and card, DH wanting to make sure we celebrated in our own little ways, and even my YDB called (a first in years).  As for YDD, no call or card.  Have to admit I felt  hurt. 

We have heard nothing from her as yet.  I realize that the choice is up to her if she wants to communicate.

I do my days but have to admit that once in awhile it is like out of the blue, my mind gets flooded with feelings of guilt about am I doing the right thing by following through with our plans.  I know I am but have moments of just plain ole big guilt.  A friend of my said that I am feeling the guilt because we are going to visit her sister.  Our YDD is just plain ole jealous of her sister anytime we have anything to do with her sister.  Sibling rivalry has been over the top.  I have not directly told YDD that we were going to visit her sister but she can pretty well put 2 and 2 together.  Since it around my ODD's birthday.

I want to work on letting go of the guilt because I know somewhere inside of me that I have nothing to feel guilty about and yet the guilt still creeps in.

Wow.  Now this is what I need to work on.  My own feelings of guilt.

 

[elsieshaye]

On the other hand, if you give up your trip because YDD is pouting, how unfair to ODD!  I think you're doing the right thing by sticking with your plans.

[USA Grad mom]

I'm in no position to give advice  with my on dd drama but there is a lot of great advice and support here I'm finding.   I feel your pain (((((hugs))))))

[Doe]

Hey BlueEyes

Would you feel better if you cancelled your trip and waited by the phone at your daughter's beck and call?  Sometimes people aren't ready to make the changes that other people encourage.  I think you should go, but if you aren't going to enjoy the trip because of the guilt, staying home might be a better idea.