Just to refresh what I said on this thread on Dec 26 Sometimes a person just has to laugh at how things turn out
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One down, one to go!! Now on to the NY gathering with DD and Sis and families. DD said, "Now, what are we doing for food?" And I said, "Nobody has talked about that, I know I'm not cooking (I have to drive 5 hours one way), so I think it'll be pizza." We are meeting in her town--not because she suggested it, but because it is kind of in the middle for Sis and me. So I had already made up my mind that if DD wasn't going to be with us that would be fine, but apparently she wants to join us. This will be the first time I have seen her since she blew up at me on the phone last summer and said she didn't want me to visit. So glad I will be at a hotel, busy with my sister. I am going to put my best foot forward but I am never again going to be a doormat for my AC bad manners. At 8am on the morning I was leaving DD called to advise me of a storm...she was worried about me traveling but since I am stubborn and wanted so much to see family I put my "best foot forward" on the accelerator and two hours out of town on a five hour trip I ran into the storm that was only going to get worse (I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me on the way to visit family). I was talking to DD at the time when the freezing rain hit. These are desolate back roads I was traveling on and so I had to turn around. So all my worrying about how it was going to turn out was completely silly. But, I had many conversations with DD over two days and all of them were wonderful.
I said, "I am going to miss seeing my girls" (GG). And my DD said, "Well, you have their numbers, don't you?" That was a wake-up call. I could be better at calling them even if they never answer their phones. GG are 21 & 14. So I called both of them the next day and left messages. Nevermind they don't call back, it does not hurt me to call anyway.
And I got a FB message from DS saying he was glad I was ok and that I got back home ok. I had posted that I had to turn around. So it was like a healing circle for all of us.
So, to wrap up the holidays, they were free of any family conflicts. And even if I had to turn around and come home I wasn't upset about it. It all turned out for the best. On to 2012 and more loving kindness. And I will reach out more.
