Congratulations on your Christmas gift. It sounds wonderful! Hopefully, your situation can heal some and you can keep talking with them.
I have thought about saying I was a jerk and trying to mend our problem that way but my daughter is so controlling and mean when she does not get her way. Right now, I am not ready for more abuse and just cannot give control of myself over to anyone else. Also, she cannot be pleased so there is nothing you can do that is right in her eyes. If I admit to saying the mean things to her that she said I said, then I am a jerk but I stop there because I do not want to enable her in her game of denial, which is not good for her. She has an eating disorder and a cheating husband who already gave her a disease so in order for me to get along with her I do have to lie to her but she is my daughter and I love her and cannot do that. So, I suffer but each day gets a little easier. At least one day, whether I see her and my grandson again or not, she will realize how much I love her and that baby because I told her the truth and have to stick to that. Right now, she thinks I am a liar because everyone else lies to her to get along. For example, they actually agree that she is only eating one apple and four or five unflavored crackers a day when she is eating three and four plates of food at a time. So, it is sad but I have to tell her the truth because if she ruins her health due to lies, they will not come from me. I am a mother and grandmother first and will continue to make sacrifices for them no matter how painful they are.
