power of the grandmothers

[seek]

i am new to the forum and want to share a positive perspective of the power of grandmothers. i know in some cultures, grandmothers are revered (such as native american and also many other indigenous cultures). in the western world, old women/grandmothers are often pushed to the margins . . .and i believe that is part of the problem some of us have . . .

so i just want to share my personal perspective that no matter what is going on in the material world, there is also a hidden world which can influence the material world . . .whenever i am at my wit's end, i know i have to humble myself and remind myself that the material world is not all there is and how things seem on the surface might not be the entire story . . .i personally believe prayer changes things and i pray to ascended masters and archangels to give me strength and insight and to protect my children and grandchild. i honestly believe this helps all of us . . .

remembering that there is a spirit world lessens my feelings of "victimhood." it is certainly not "fair" that wise women can be shoved to the margins and it might hurt our self esteem and identity in this world . . . but i remind myself that that is just a cultural mindset - my power as a wise woman is real and i can access it anytime . . . i just have to remember to do so.

just wanted to put that out there . . . there are a lot of tragic stories on this site and my heart goes out to the wise women who are suffering or being challenged. i hope they can draw on other wise women for support and find their own power in meditation, prayer, nature, art - whatever nurtures their spirit.

[connieh]

Well said seek.....

[Nana]

Seek

Loved what you said......being able to access the wise women with have within ourselves....awesome....will remember it.

Love

[seek]

i am hoping maybe we can encourage each other to remember our wisdom here . . .i know when i get into fear (and nothing provokes it like family or fear of family being in harm's way or not getting along with people, worrying about them, etc.) . . .i know i need a reminder when i get into those very dark, despondent places that there is another realm to access . . .to use eckhart tolle's model, when the "painbody" gets activated, then everything else flies out the window and i go into "survival mode" - that does not help me or anyone else, but it happens.

i personally have ptsd and can get triggered quite easily . . .if i had elders to consult with, who could offer a hug and encouragement and tell me to "go get a massage" or "this too shall pass," it would help me.

i am seeking new ways to allow emotional and spiritual healing . . .i have a ton of tools in my toolkit - eft, aromatherapy, massage, a great spiritual counselor, flower essences, etc., BUT sometimes i just cry and cry and need a hug and reassurance (because it is that child or infant that gets triggered and she needs lots of hugs and love) . . .

women have so much wisdom and are so connected to the healing sources of nature.

i know one thing that always helps me is to go outside and rake or fool around in my garden . . .that gets me connected - unfortunately, i can't do that at midnight . . .i have animals that comfort me (i feel bad that i scare them sometimes with my grief or crying) . . .

i just wish we were more connected with each other . . .that we could bake cookies for each other, put on a pot of coffee like they used to do in the "old days" - just "be there" for each other. we can't solve each other's problems, but we can listen and send love.

[sesamejane]

Seek,
I started a women's group in my town recently to connect with other wise women.  Coincidentily, they named it Women of Wisdom.  Originally it had been the Poker Club, and I personally liked that name better.  One of the gals husbands, when asked where his wife was, told them "she's at a poker club."  It just came out of his mouth, and I thought it was great.  But...I may have started the group but it is their group now.  It is a source of connection with some great gals who live near me and who accept and support me.  I am there for them too. 

So, it is good to have folks who can look you in the eye, and it is good to have folks on line who remind me that it is a big world with lots of opinions and ways of doing things.  I love it.

thanks all, and thanks Seek.

[Nana]

Seek...  You are so right.  We sometimes all we need is a nice word, kiss, gesture to keep us going.  I always say to my people...It is so easy to make others happy...and when we do so, we are happy too.  Its great to be able to tell someone....you just made my day.... we never know when a smile, a nice word, listening means the world to someone.  I thank you for your words because they are chicken soup for my soul.  You seem so spiritual and enlighten that I wish I could be near you and talk for hours. 

And remember, the older we get the wiser we become....life experiences have done that.  When I talk to my son and tell him he has to make some changes in his personality.  See, he worries a lot, is apprehensive,, becomes impatient easily.  He answers "Mom, I am just like You".  I tell him "Yes, I know, that is what worries me...I want you to be better than me, and happier....I wish I had known better".  lol.

So Seek...Yes get a good massage (I love them).  Surround yourself of people who love and accept you....you have yourself to love too.  And Yes...everything passes (eventually), and after a dark night, a new day will be born. 

A big hug for you....and I will keep you in my prayers....for whatever your needs are.

Love

[seek]

thank you, everyone. i feel the energetic encouragement and it is very nurturing and healing. may everyone who reads this thread be blessed with peace and joy - praying for all of the mothers and grandmothers.

[newhera]

In our country grandmothers are revered & are taken care off by the family until her dying day.

[Doe]

Newhera -  nice!  What country, may I ask?