Boundaries

[JudyJudyJudy]

It seems like it would help to remember that you and your husband have the right to live however you want to live unless the child is not being taken care of properly.  Then, I feel she has a voice in your life.  Otherwise, she needs to butt out and let you live your lives.  Also, as far as the religion topic, she might not know she is offending you or she might be trying to change your views.  She might think she is helping or is trying to help and not realize it is bothering anyone.  You could try changing the subject or walking away when she starts some of these topics.  Your MIL needs to learn to be there for her children when they need guidance or help and not try to force it.  So, you could also say to her that you will definately come to her when you have questions and smile nicely and then walk away.