DS heard first hand what DIL felt about us, and saw her and her parents treatment of us in person. I think something must have been said by him, because she has been polite to us for a few weeks now (counseling maybe?) I'm still leery and not able to breathe out yet, but I'm hoping I can relax soon and trust again. I'm not comfortable visiting, calling or emailing either one of them, since I don't want to be seen as hovering or smothering, God forbid!
I'm still dealing with my envy towards DIL's parents who get to see them every day and have the time and resources to pull out all stops for celebrations, holidays and birthdays. (When DS was growing up, he knew kids from all income levels, and we were right in the middle. However, he decided that spending big bucks = love, and always felt shortchanged no matter what we did or how much we spent, 'cos it was never enough compared to the wealthier kids he knew.) I think he's beginning to see through the IL's "control through money" agenda, but I think those old emotions hit him, as they do for all of us sometimes, based on past experiences. Other than repeating "I love you" until I sound like a freak, I don't know how to prove to him that he is, and always has been, loved truly and well by his family.
And it still hurts that I can't enjoy an easy, comfortable relationship with DS like we used to have. I miss him.
Which leads me to feeling so grateful I still have him in some form, some of the time, and to want to express my deepest sympathy to those who are not able to see their DSs or GKs for one reason or another. My heart breaks for you, and I send good wishes/prayers your way every single day. This site is so amazing for the love and support we find here. Welcome to all newbies, and love to all who venture here.
