Hi Isitme
thank you for taking the time to post these...I am finding them very interesting....
like this one, it makes a lot of sense
As you explore these questions, you’ll begin to uncover the part of yourself that is resisting what the other person represents to you. Then you can consciously decide if you wish to continue holding onto that resistance or let it go. The more you resist about the world, the more time you’ll spend defending your position.
I believe that is what really upset me the most when discussing this with my son....I would constantly defend my position, and he would constantly tell me I'm wrong, in defending his wife's position...I kept thinking, "my goodness, he knows me better then anyone, how could he think I'm to blame for all of this, doesn't he see how upset I get?", however, I do understand, that everytime I defended myself to him, he took it as an attack against his wife...
Resistance comes from your ego. When your ego takes ownership of your ideas, it treats challenges to your ideas as a personal challenge, hence the need to defend yourself as if being attacked. But if you keep your ideas separate from your ego, you’ll feel no surge of resistance or defensiveness because there won’t be any attachment.
Boy, does that make sense, and gives a whole new meaning to the phrase, "when your not connected emotionally, you can see things much more clearly"
