My daughter hasn't spoken to me in years and calls her step- mother "mom." I don't really understand what I've done to her. My ex husband (her father) was physically abusive and she doesn't seen to remember all the bad things he did, but now idolizes him and has stopped seeing me. I have no money to help her and her husband out, but he does have alot of it. Would that cause her to act this way and stop speaking to me or seeing me, calling his wife "mom?"
I went to their wedding (which her father and his wife paid for). I knew that, and decided nothing would bother me; it was my daughter's day. When it came time to give the bride away he said, Her mother "Barb" and I give her away." His wife's name. I heard a few gasps in the pews behind me, but didn't react. There were stairs outside the church where the family stood to meet everyone there. They placed me at the very bottom and had their sister in-law offer "bubbles" to everyone that got down to me, so I couldn't talk to them. I still smiled and had a good time. I was determined to see her big day. I was talking to her when the wedding planner came up to us. I complimented the planner on the beautiful wedding and reception she had helped set up. When I introduced myself as her mother, the wedding planner looked at me like I was crazy. She said, "you mean her step mother, right?, Barb is her mother." There were so many things that happened. I drove seven hours to be at this wedding. I was supposed to stay the night, but when it was all over, I just couldn't do it. I got into my car and cried all the way back home. I am still so hurt.
I don't know what I did? I thought I was a good mother. What would make my daughter treat me this way? What can I do to get over this and so many other things like it? I don't think I can give up on her. I love her so much!
