4 adult children

[cocobars]

That's so good, peace!  I did the same thing with my son because he has not spoken to his father in three years.  His father was abusive, but he is still the only father he has and I don't want my son blaming himself someday for not speaking to him.  You are so right!  This way, they have done everything they can and there is no blame in that!

 

[Peace]

Absolutely, cocobar!  Sometimes it may be hard to find good things about people who hurt us but we gain so much wisdom and knowledge from our trials and errors.  I continually talk to my daughter about integrity and forgiveness and how important it is for her to break the cycle of dysfunction not only for her but for generations to come....her children, grandchildren and on and on.  I told her to learn from our mistakes and change it because she will surely make some of her own.