Going back to the OP, Speaking only for myself, I've often tried to be open and honest with "myself" about why it hurts,bothers,bugs,ect. me so very much when my Children have to punish their children?
And to be honest I don't have an answer. I guess I haven't reached that level of self understanding? It does though! Besides the dangerous things that any person with a brain would know has to be dealt with.But the more simple things such as running,jumping on the beds,writing on the wall. All the things I would of gotten on to my children about! But it just seems no big issue when the grandchildren do it.
I know more tricks now about how to clean off the walls ect. I do have a talk with the child. But I don't punish them. Talking is all that I've ever had to do to get through to them though. Maybe if it didn't I would feel differently?
Maybe I'm just to lazy to try to be perfect like I did when I was a young Mother? I honestly don't know?
I follow any and all rules the parents expect to be followed when I know them.
If they say, "No sweets." I just hide it all so it's not a problem instead of fussing on the children. LOL
So reading everyones points of view has been interesting to me.
I am pretty sure our Children know that it just kills me when the grandchildren get into bad trouble? they usually never do it in our home.
Our children don't hit/spank their children just like we never hit them. So that may be why talking about what is okay and what isn't works okay for us? Like I said, I honestly don't have a clue? LOL
