This weekend

[holliberri]

Hey Everyone!

We are set to visit with the ILs this weekend, and for the first time since Christmas 2005, there is no knot in my stomach, no jitters, no nerves. I *think* that the calm I feel will allow me to at least be myself, which is a huge help in slightly stressful situations. I often allow myself to be overrun with negative expecations, and that hasn't happend this time. So...my stress pre-visit can't add to whatever stress (if any) I might feel during the visit.

I'd like to think I'm too busy to be worried about it, but the truth is, I'm very adept at recognizing and inflaming my own anxiety when it is there. So, I must be relatively anxiety free, and that can only be due to one thing: WWU.

I wanted two key things from this site:

1.) Elimination of negative expectations
2.) Ability to control my reaction to someone else's action

I'm well on my way to #1, if I'm feeling this good before a visit. As for #2...I'm not going in with ANY expectations of that, positive or negative. Work in progress, but I really do appreciate all that you've offered me so far.

Must just be magic. 

[luise.volta]

One thing that's different  :Dis that you will be taking your e-tribe with you! Sending love...

[Tara]

Yes HB, 

have a great time and will be thinking of you.  I so much appreciate how mindful
you are and that will help immensely with cultivating inner peace.

[lancaster lady]

Don't forget a magic talisman to take to remind you of your WW Warriors .
Routing for you Holli ....you'll wing it ..!!   Woo Woo ....lol

[Pooh]

I'm so glad for you Holli.  I think you will have a wonderful visit, no matter what, because you have realized it's not about you.  What a revelation and one we all need to remember!!!!

I hope it goes wonderful and look on your left and right shoulder, that is us!  (Of course our shoulder is full, and the other probably has Laurie on it with a smirkful grin...but we are all there!)

[LaurieS]

At least my holli angel would be encouraging her to do something fun... Like.. Oh I would take a bunch of photo cutouts of myself and stick them to all the frames where she cut out Holli to get the babies pictures... I'd make like little sticky tab Holli's and just stick them everywhere.. yep that is what I'd do

I was semi lectured once for taking the high school varsity softball seniors to the rival schools bus and photographed the girls making fun of the bus before the 'big' game... it's just my nature what can I say

[Pooh]

Ha ha!  And THAT is why I luff you!

[Pen]

Holliberri, you will be centered, calm, and gracious next weekend just as you are here. We'll be rooting for you. Remember that you don't have to engage, so have some generic comments ready.

Laurie, I should try your photo idea the next time I'm at DS & DIL's, LOL. There aren't any photos of us to replace, so I'd have to stick our little country bumpkin heads over DIL's FOO's glamorous city heads ala World Weekly News. Do you think they'd notice??

[holliberri]

Thanks, guys! I know the few months of being on here has helped tremendously.

I really do hope to be as calm with them as I feel right this very moment. : )

[luise.volta]

Viva la HB! 

[Pooh]

Go Holli! Go Holli!  Weekend here....hope it's great and that you just smile and smile....

[Nana]

Good luck Holli...I am there with you cheering you up.

Love

[Barbie]

I'm very happy for you, Holli, hope you have a wonderful visit with your ILs.

((((((((((Hugs))))))))))