sending you a virtual hug and blessing.
I felt like you last Christmas,
I want even to suicide to end this pain
But then I realized
that I am a victim of DIL manipulation,
that our GDs need us and to to that I would let them down.
so I started to pray and I am asking daily God
to give me strength and wisdom and
I found Invisible here, her life story of dead son
and pain of her GD and
some very smart women who do supported Insisible in her pain.
WE are more lucky then Invisible, our son is alive.
Invisible if you read here THANK YOU so much for your time
to share your story, you are in my prayer,
you are very brave woman and amazing grandma
One week before last Christmas was my GS 4 birthday,
my oldest son called me and said to me, he is so sorry
but he do not know what to do. His younger brother called and
said he and his new family will come only if
mom=me was not there,
"choose" he said "it is mom or me".
So I reasured my son I loved him,
but your brother and your nieces need you,
please be there for them.
That I will come day after to celebrate
to keep some cake for me,
and let not ruin small boy party, DH went there alone.
Christmas was coming and DS and his new DIL
did invited everyone at that party to their new house for a dinner.
Everyone, except me, of course, I was excluded.
I was angry at DS for this childish behavior,
thinking fine, if that is what he wanted
you do not want me in you life so I would step back
not to give you any presents since he will throw them out anyway.
But two wrong does not make right
MY DS is wrong but I will forgive him
DH asked what DS wanted for his family for Christmas,
DS said nothing for him or his 2 girls,
just cross country skies and boots for her 2 older kids
well after praying I did convinced my DH to go there alone
as he did not want to go.
I bought a dolly for little one and skates for older one,
and night fuzzy jammies (to cuddle and hug them when they sleep)
some books and pens for her older kids (they are victims too)
send a food and wine basket for DS and DIL
DS husband said GDs were so happy to received a present from me, asking about me, wheres grandma and why she did not come to see them...
DS and DIL put their presents and her kids presents aside
as her kids were not there ( they were visiting their father)
for Easter my husband was not allowed to come to their house
and give chocolates baskets to GDs and her 2kids
2 birthday presents for our 2GDs our DS first did not want to accept
but after 3 weeks after GDs Birthdays DS took it
if DS gave presents to GD we do not know
you see I realized that DIL planned that
hoping that my DH stay home with me
to push our family away from DS
so thanks to God
my DH and his brothers have a contact with DS
limited contact but DS needs to hear that we still love him
for DS birthday I did send him e-mail,
wishing him happiness and telling him I do love him
for his DDs birthday I did send him-email
wishing them happiness and asking DS when can I see them
because I do love them so much
for his wedding (even not invited) I did send him e-mail
wishing him and DIL well and telling him I do love him
Please do not take this personally, it is not about you,
it is not you being bad person or do something bad,
some is pushing you out
question is WHY?
to hurt you because they are hurting
as a mothers we could feel their pain
